What Is the Order of Speeches at a Reception?


What is the Proper Order Of Speeches at a Wedding Reception?

Couples ask us often during our final planning meetings about the proper order of the speeches at a wedding reception, and who should stand up to say something.

As the tradition goes, the bride’s father’s is first to make a speech. After him, the groom’s father, the groom, and lastly, the best man follow behind. In today’s world, speeches are made by both parents of the bride and groom, typically the father of the bride, then the mother of the bride followed by the father of the groom and then the mother of the groom. The father’s can usually take care of the speeches themselves as well. Also, now brides and bridesmaids are also making speeches.

Let’s Recap:

1. Bride/Groom
2. Father of the Bride (and/or Mother of the Bride)
3. Father of the Groom (an/or Mother of the Groom)
4. Best Man
5. Bridesmaids
6. Open for any other family members or guests.

These, however are just traditional wedding speech guidelines. With weddings constantly improving and changing with the times, there really are no rules. For example, if the parents of the married couple aren’t thrilled with public speaking, maybe the best man or maid of honor would want to speak first. It’s your wedding, choose to do it the way you and your partner want or follow traditional wedding speech order.

It doesn’t matter if you have a large or small bridal party, drama might occur when it comes to who gets to make a speech. A wedding isn’t long enough for every single person to speak for 3-6 minutes on both partners’ side. To eliminate jealously and anger, if both partner’s have a friend speaking, it is smarter to have one on each side.
Whether your the Father of the Bride, Groom or a Bridesmaid, there are a few helpful tips I want to share with you. It’s the best-kept secret; trust me, you’ll thank me later.

Often these speeches are also broken up throughout dinner in a mid-west region wedding reception. Often, the bride/groom will do a welcome (if applicable), followed by dinner, then usually between salads and the main course parents, followed by the best man and bridesmaids once everyone has their entree. If it's a buffet, the bride/groom welcome is first, followed by everyone through the buffet, then the rest of the speeches.

Wedding Speech Tips To Consider

1. You MUST take into consideration important key factors of the audience such as age, familiarity, and cultural background.
2. Humor is key! If you need to talk to other family (parents and siblings are an excellent source) and friends to help you with background material or humorous moments of the person/persons your speech is for.
3. Your speech should be FROM THE HEART!!
4. Stay away from crude and indecent material, you would not want to offend or embarrass anyone.
5. You should consider 3-6 minutes for your speech. If you have stage fright, keep the speech short and sweet.
6. Once your speech is written, practice it out loud several times either in front of a mirror or for a family member that wont accidently share what you plan to say.

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